I’ve been extremely distracted with personal things for the past week plus, and one of those distractions was being a bridesmaid in a good friend’s wedding.
Several of us visited the site of the wedding a few weeks ago. It’s a gorgeous outdoor site about 45 minutes from the Twin Cities. We talked about the general plan for the audience and the general direction of the procession. We talked about meeting in a different place and processing from an unexpected direction. We had the rehearsal in the Twin Cities the day before the wedding. We weren’t at the actual site because of the commute. We talked about spacing and order and meeting times all of those good rehearsal things.
The day of the wedding, we were dealing with unexpected and unexperienced things. We were putting up a few decorations, enlisting the help of friends who had arrived early, and navigating effective communication with important people we didn’t really know, such as the parents of the bride and groom. There were nerves and deadlines and uncomfortable shoes – it was just totally different to be there than it was to plan it.
While in the thick of this reality, I completely lost any sense of those plans we had made weeks ago and even the day before. I remembered most of them, but they somehow didn’t seem relevant anymore. Everything around me was totally different than it was when we had made those plans, so my instinct was to improvise.
Looking back on that instinct is frustrating. I knew exactly what I was supposed to do, but I felt compelled to go against it and start from scratch . It’s kind of ridiculous.
The point of this is that I see parallels in nonprofits. Most of us have a great idea of what the best practices are, from communication to filing to education. We have a plan. But then we come to deadlines or audits or budget cuts and there is a definite instinct to toss the plans out and start from scratch.
How can we not only share best practices, but do so in a way that acknowledges that they’ll feel way different in the midst of actual reality?
Has anyone else noticed this instinct?